Creating Habits for Personal Growth

 

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Your Authentic Self Can’t Hide

The truth is, most of us have a “customer service voice” or face, or outward behaviors we can access when we’re out in the wild with other people. You might call it masking, or faking it, or putting your best foot forward, but there are moments that you can see the real you no matter where you are.

Don’t take it as an insult—you’re perfectly lovely, as am I. But we all have stuff that makes us feel like we could do better. We also have habits and “flaws” that make us really freaking adorable and relatable to others. I think we need to start embracing our messy, imperfect selves and show up as our best REAL selves and see how much deeper our connection to others can be.

Observe and Assess

If we just keep thrashing through life without understanding the results and what they say about us, we’ve got zero shot at living our fullest, most loved lives. For example, over the years of creating habits for personal and professional growth, I’ve learned that when I have a smoothie, a tea, and a water at the ready, I feel like I’m prepared for my wants and needs. I think there may also be a diagnosis code for that, but we’re not talking about that lol. This is an observation I’ve made, and it is pretty consistent.

On the other hand, when I look at this (above is that photographic proof of how I land at the salon) habit objectively it can be a little weird and messy. My husband is always talking about how I  have so many cups and bottles around the house, and it drives him crazy. While I don’t think of it that way, I have realized it’s annoying to others and I try to corral my beverages and stay mindful of where I’m leaving them. This is how I’ve assessed one of my habits in relation to others. I’m not judging myself for it, just understanding that it’s something I do.

They’re Not Perfect, Either

No, you’re not perfect. I’m not perfect, and neither are “they.” You know, the rest of the virtual or real people that we can’t help but compare ourselves to. I’m not telling you this so you drive yourself mad with figuring out what you do that makes other people say, “Huh?’ I want you to understand that if the habits you have now aren’t creating the life you want to live, that you can change, edit, or add new ones. But you have to see where you really are first to know how to get where you want to go.

It’s difficult to see ourselves without judgement. But remember how deep your grace and forgiveness is for others, and give yourself the same respect. Growing into your potential doesn’t happen overnight, but if you are consistent with the little things, the big things will come eventually.

xx, linds